Winnipeg Free Press

Winnipeg Free Press (Newspaper) - March 24, 1975, Winnipeg, Manitoba Winnipeg free press men s news 18 monday March 24, 1975 teen age cancer victim wants to learn truth by Mary Jane Fine m i i special was possibly the Only thing More frightening than knowing you have cancer is not knowing it and suspecting h. That s the reason a Spunky 15-year-old Miami boy named Steve Southerland became the founder and president of an organization called kids involved in disease. I think kids Are better Able to Cope with it than says Stevie who lost his ice l leg to cancer last March. The group which meets at Miami s National children s cardiac Hospital Hopes to give Young people who now have or did have cancer a Chance to talk with others their own age who understand their feelings. So far the membership is Small less than a dozen because Many parents keep the t r u i h from their youngsters either in an Effort to spare them the worry or be cause the parents themselves Are unable to confront their child s illness. Some parents won t face says Stevie s father Ray m o n d a 36-year-old Dade county police officer. That s sad because kids today Are smart. They know and they Don t have anyone to answer their questions or share their this is not the first time that Ray Southerland and his wife Sarah Jane 35, have faced cancer. Sicvio is the oldest of their three sons and the third to be stricken with the disease. One brother Jeffrey died of leukaemia at age 4. On dec. 11, 1967 the Day before Jet Frey s death Michaei then 3, was diagnosed to have yet an other lorm of cancer. The doctors did t Tell us recalls Southerland but Michael had a five per cent Chance to live. It was a very rare Type of cancer affecting the ii Erve linings in the spinal Michael underwent Radical surgery followed by months of Cobalt treatments and today at age 10, has been free of can cer for five years. The Southerland say there re no other known cases Vic re three children in the ame family have been Ulric in by three different apparently unrelated forms of Ancer. Shortly after Christmas 1973, Stevie noticed a pain in his left leg. He was playing re jails his father. His leg was Birling so we put an ice ban Dage on it thinking it was a pulled by March the leg really so Stevie s parents took Lim to a Bone specialist. X rays showed the femur Bone expanded and by that time says Southerland we knew something was Stevie was taken to Cincinnat we bought a truckload of Maytag. Washers dryers dishwashers wringers and food disposal units and we will pass the savings on to you i children s Hospital where a Biopsy revealed a malignant Oste Genic tumor. Two Days later Stevie s leg was amputated. My folks gave me most of my strength if not allot says Stevie. At first i thought i did t want to go on. Then i talked to my parents and decided it was my leg or my within a week after surgery Stevie amazed his doctors his parents and himself by walk ing on his artificial leg. Stevie still checks into the Hospital monthly for blood tests and massive doses of drugs. Chemotherapy is continued at Home too but Stevie never complains despite unpleasant Side effects produced y his medication. Lie s or. South Erland says. Once the a Tox in he was taking made him nauseous and he got sick in school. 1 went Down there and Stevie said hey dad this is terrible. The kids Are Gonna trunk i m a sickle the Southerland know Ste vie s chances and so does he. Right after surgery we were told that Stevie had a u per cent Chance of making explains or. Southerland by with each month that goes by the chances increase just Thi tiniest bit. My wife has a say ing. 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Brothers i be been going with this Man for six months and Over this period of time we be shared my apart ment and lived together every weekend. I think we re very much in love and up till last weekend i thought we d both been honest with each other about our attitudes toward life and about our past. For the first time we discussed marriage and making something permanent of our relationship. I was in favor of this until he revealed that he had been a swinger during his first marriage i must confess i was shocked. He said he did t like exchanging partners with practically everyone in his neigh boyhood and blames his wife for starting him on that kind of life. He said it actually broke up his marriage. He claims he s tired of this kind of sex but i m not so sure. _ . Dear . It s possible that this Man has matured and that he May have found sexual promiscuity unfulfilling. I find it difficult to believe however that his wife was to tally to blame for his entering into this permissive Promiscuo us life style. Studies reveal that women Are much More Lively to be reluctant to engage n any form of group sex and hat they Are the first to want 0 withdraw from the so called swinging society. Most women feel that they Are being used Only As sex objects and they Ong for More meaningful relationships in which affection and love take precedent Over simple animal sexuality that is unrelated to any deeper emotions. Love according to or. Judson Lancis professor of family sociology at the University of California is the concern of two people for each other. You love a person if his Well being his growth toward his greatest potential in All facets of his personality Are As important to you As your own. It seems to me that when a husband or a wife feels that a mate is something to be exchanged with others at random it denies True caring and love. Or. Amitai Etzioni. A Colum Bia University sociologist believes the tendency to reduce sex to pure Anima Listic behaviour is on its Way out. Affectionate bonding seems to be More important today. Apparently people whose approach to sex was strictly mechanical or unrelated to love and tenderness Are beginning to change their minds. The swinging life has for Many enslaved rather than freed them. Or. Robert Kolodny found that swingers were Dis c o v e r i no that exchanging mates contributed Little to the individual s maturation and development. He observed that 1 usually people engage in this i promiscuous life style for no i More than a year and a half j i before giving it up. J the Man you mention May i have reached that Point prior to meeting you. He May seriously be looking for a More enduring relationship. 1 Sug Gest you do not leap into any permanent relationship with him however until you re sure that his change is not just a temporary whim. While Many learn a great Deal from the errors made in a first marriage it s important or those contemplating remarriage or marriage to someone who s been married before to make a special Point of Dis cussing How they feel about marriage generally what they expect from it and where they feel they erred in their earlier marriage. Toronto Marlene Mathers a social worker says lathers who desert their Fame ies often Are Ordinary men with problems and not the monsters described by their wives. It s really kind of fascinate mrs. Mathers said in an interview. I meet the father and i remember what the Mother s Story was. You really get a slanted mrs. Mathers a worker for the Ontario ministry of Community and social service s new parental support program said the program is helping men previously ignored by so Cial agencies. The men usually were Happy to have someone listen to their Side and suggest ways to Cope with Back payments of support owed to the province. The 21-member parental sup port team was organized last april to collect More than s7 million in support payments that the province had not been receiving from husbands. For several years women have signed their support pay ments Over to the province when they have become family benefits recipients. Recipients of family benefits arc ensured a steady income. John Anderson assistant Deputy minister of Community and social services said in a Progress report last november that of s7.8 million owing million was collectible. In january there were deserted families in Ontario living on family benefits Al most a third of the total of family cases handled by he province. The workers first Contact with the men usually is in fam ily court where they appear in response to a summons automatically issued when support payments fall behind and a let Ter asking for payment draws no response. They come in frightened and you have to break said Polly Spear Man a support worker. You sort of hold their hand through the one Man who had difficulties in his family support responsibilities said treatment he has been Given is fair and de until then i had always found it very impersonal and he said. You were always told you had to pay this and pay that. It s like bang ing your head against the Wall. If you just forget it you end up with a summons. When you go in you get John Biel head of the pro Gram said that when the pro Gram began some staff members were uneasy because they Felt a collection Agency had no place in a ministry that traditionally has Given funds away. We Don t have the Revenue generating capacity of say the ministry of or. Biel said. Some of them frowned on the benevolent mistry wanting its Pound of Blind typist can t use music degree St. Paul Minn. A sue Duff Blind since birth could t find work As a Clas Sical Singer. So she became a clerk typist for the internal reve nue service. You Don t really know How complicated tax Laws can be until you read she says. It s such a wealth of words. The words themselves Aren t so Complex but it seems you re just surrounded by miss Duff at 26 holds a master s degree in music but says she could t find a Job in that Field. A year ago she took a civil service exam and in september went to work for the local irs office. Now she does her tax Law Reading in braille and much of her typing from dictation. She says her next goal is to become a service representative helping others in paring their tax forms. She says that Equality is up to the individual. You think a person has to believe he or she is equal before anything1 can lessons for Junior Modellers 9 15 years of age Keystone Book hobbies Sears save Diana is a smash hit 19" in Reg. Diana the classic new wig by Oscar de la Renta is a smash hit and it s Oscar de la Renta s Jhoice of a con temporary Petite Silhouette. 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