Winnipeg Free Press

Winnipeg Free Press (Newspaper) - October 7, 1985, Winnipeg, Manitoba Winnipeg free press october pages 1320 hos program eases adjustments for mind your own business when grandson has girl Tempo Romance explodes into 80s following natures urge not Good enough anymore by Tia Gindick los Angeles times los Angeles it the most romantic thing about Romance is the idea of in real life and for some peo ple always forget to talk about this Romance is often As frustrating As it is it is confusing and hard it it is what everybody wants these it is stuck in a closet during the 60s and 70s in favor of sexual Freedom and libera Tion from is but put aside any notions of Romance As lingering slow dancing to special songs and walks along the Beach at Sunset today True Romance is inter twined with complications d new Yor based psychologist Ellen Mcgrath Calls Romance a crisis of the 80s for d los Angeles psychologist Berta Davis Calls it a a wondrous sense of that a couple May experience in the beginning of their relationship but is doomed to be great adventure d Beverly Hills psychologist Nath Aniel Branden contends romantic love is neither fantasy nor Aberra but one of the great possibilities of our one of the great adventures and one of the great he what in interested in is Why so Many go Down to defeat and these would not seem to be Hope Ful but psychologists and other love specialists Are not Wor after problems Are what therapists Are even without indulging in a few ses Sions to learn the Hows and whys of romantic there Are plenty of other ways to try the 80s have seen Romance explode into a hot Selling there Are Glossy paperback psychology weekend encounter sessions and University usually these classes Are con ducted under a title like making relationships work or men and but this University of los Exten Sion has gone to the Crux of the matter with an eight week course beginning co Vered Are evolution of the concept of romantic cultural archetypes and visual images of what people want from love psychological differences in male and female romantic romantic novels and How Romance is viewed in Barrie Dean of the extensions humanities and social sciences said the inspiration for the class was triggered by seeing a number of articles on relationships and hearing Linda Ron Stadt who is scheduled for one session sing old love the Bortnick was to link the ideas of Romance in the past to the and to get into the issues of whats what Are the issues a lot of talk about something that was always assumed to be instinctive but perhaps that is the prob doing what comes naturally just is not Good enough at if you want Romance to last this is Romance in the 80s and this is where the psychologists come apparently an outgrowth of the human potential today couples seem to want it All a Good Lon term relationship and lasting disposable society it is a reaction to the disposable society of the 60s and said psychotherapist Joan who will moderate the Urcla people were disenchanted with that today there trying to find happiness in a relationship its a shift from the Era when the emphasis was on there finding a sense of gratification in staying with in making a relationship even Given Good How a couple May find it hard to perpetuate a lifetime As most psychologists remind Romance want meant to last Romance is Only the first stage in a relation the second is said who is on the faculty at the University of and new York University in addition to practising clinical psychology in new is based on idealizing the other its a feeling of not merely a sexual but a feeling of greatest it involves intrusive thinking Only of the other theres usually an acute longing for an enor Mous fear of rejection and a feeling of its an unreal it Doest last that it the second is More Mcgrath its based on knowing who you youre appreciative of them the partner because they care for you even knowing who you and they Are that Way about its a More real its More com people base a relation ship on stage rather than a relationship has a better Chance of accepting Romance As merely the first stage in a even that is not As Blissful As it used to be psychologists to the women according to Many women who had a traditional child Hood and traditional romantic experiences then allowed their adult show bits the search for lasting love has brought big business to lives to be shaped by the women movement Are experiencing great these women have be come successful in the outside world and they need to exert con then they come Home and cant figure out How to be in charge of their destiny and still be incredibly confused As for there incredibly Mcgrath men and women both have a Strong inherent need for but for theres usually an idealization of it comes from either idealizing or rejecting their Moth ers now they Are encountering women who Are not fitting the traditional roles that men have conferred on and women Arent helping because women Arent really Clear about what they that Why were seeing so Many surveys that suggest that men often feel like there sex that is also Why Romance is sell Mcgrath i just finished teaching a relationship course and it was enormous 200 to 300 people and there were More men than women in the ten years there would have been 20 or 30 in the class and the ratio would have been women Over what in is that women Are More into the idea of Romance and men Are interested in men feel More ungrounded on issues of the questions i get How to be How do i what do women even want providing answers has probably made Nathaniel director of the Bio Centric Institute in los Angeles and author of four books on subjects related to including the psychology of romantic a candidate for lifestyles of the Rich and he is a self described Veteran and a True believer in romantic which he defines As a passionate attachment Between a Man and a woman that reflects a High regard for the value of each others per Brandeis concept of romantic love allows for confusion Over traditional roles As created by the women it allows for it allows for the sym Bols of romantic love say flow cute cards As ways of giving form to a Branden contends that All it Means to be romantic is to treat the relationship As when relationships fall its not that love has failed its that people have failed people who know How to make love he tend to express love verbally be physically affectionate express their love sexually express their appreciation and admiration for each other talk More with each other about their dreams offer each other an emotional support sys tem express love with gifts or tasks accept demands or put up with shortcomings and create time to be alone do All he and a relationship will Only grow More romantic with the passing route 66 composer Dies at 64 prom the news services los Angeles comp Serar Ranger Nelson famed for his work with such stars As Frank Sinatra and Linda Ronstadt and for his theme from route died yesterday at age who made a comeback with Ronstadt in her whats new and Lush life albums of richly orchestrated old died in Hospital of cardiac and kidney fail Riddle won an Oscar in 1975 for music adaptation for the score of the great based on the Scott Fitzgerald a grammy in 1958 for Cross country his 1962 theme from route made it to 30th on Bill boards pop charts that and was one of the first television show themes to be recorded and commercially Singer expects child los Angeles Singer Crystal Gayle is expecting her second child in the Early Spring and plans to take time off from touring to prepare for the baby her publicist said and her Law yer Bill already have a Twoy Earold Nelson show to open a two year exhibit on the life and career of Singer Willie Nelson opens 16 at the country music Hall of Fame and most of the items in this exhibit Are borrowed from willies personal collection and we feel the exhibit really succeeds in conveying the Impact of the Man and his said William director of the country music 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