Winnipeg Free Press

Winnipeg Free Press (Newspaper) - January 13, 1991, Winnipeg, Manitoba Winnipeg free press january 1991 Page 14 Chuck features editor Mil b i by Tony Rogers Oston a abandoned by her raised in a West Virginia town by an abusive aunt and a lecherous Elizabeth didst seem to have a but when her impoverished family or even provide a and a school counsellor complained she was she made the swim team so she could get a daily too poor to Ever dream of owning a clarinet or she joined the school band playing whatever instrument the school had to for psychologists have studied children who crumbled under the weight of a traumatic reinforcing the notion that abused children become ruined but recently they have come to believe that the Elizabeths of the transgenders by one yield clues on How to help All kinds of troubled help others lessons Learned from transgenders May be used to help those who cant Rise above the circumstances of their said Norman a professor of psychology at the University of in a sense they Are experiments in natural he the kid whose mom is schizophrenic who still grows to be a Rhodes scholar May Tell us something about How nature life for transgenders is often Sharp and said Karen a psychiatric social worker in who taped 20 hours of conversations with the subject of her doctoral but they do Well in situations anyone else would find she if they had been born into different they might have been Hope sought for abuse victims in successful survivors of misery Elizabeth told Northcraft of Bon breaking beatings by her of being sexually assaulted by her Uncle for five her Battle did not end with Grade she gained admission to College and was told she was dyslexic and should drop but she worked her Way through earned a graduate degree and became a family what happened How could she possibly have endured Northcraft said Elizabeth told her the turning Point came in the Grade one of her secret pleasures was her blonde when her aunt shaved her the Well of anger and determination buried within her broke Sel Confidence after she was Able to reject what her aunt was saying and Start making her life said transgenders Are resourceful and Independent they All have the potential because of family surroundings to suffer social or psychological but transgenders seek out other ways to Northcraft they have and Early on they think for they emotionally distance themselves from their and they choose their actions rather than do what would be expected in their Northcraft cited one Case study of a boy whose schizophrenic Mother thought the family food was the woman two daughters believed her delusions and would not touch the but the Little boy ate the Sisters grew up the boy went off to College and was successful and in the worst of transgenders envision themselves imagining that they can do great things despite their Northcraft obscure they include All kinds of from the very obscure to the Well such As actress Carol the daughter of two alcoholics who As a girl dreamed of some Day going to Northcraft said she decided to join the Small group of professors studying transgenders when she found volumes of research devoted to troubled children but Little to those who most studies on such children have come Only in the last 10 to 15 she we know much More about the factors for failure then for Northcraft its become conventional Wisdom to i was battered As a so ill Batter my now such attitudes May be i think this is part of a movement to focus on health rather than Northcraft my whole notion is if we can identify factors that enable transgenders to then we bring them to Bear on other children at the most important lesson any child May be Able to transcend a hurtful Home life if just one stable adult a Friend or counsellor is around to said one psychology help for the needy not based on rules Minneapolis millionaire Percy Ross is internationally known for his philanthropic works and likes to encourage others to help solve problems for those in he has earned a Fortune and a wealth of knowl Edge during his lifetime and wants to share both before his his motto is he who gives while he lives also knows where it dear Percy Ross i read your column in the Huntington her Ald dispatch every Sun but Ive never read where you help any its always women and teenage i understand it is your but How about me in a i do not swear or beat my 1 never sexually abused my Daugh Ter when she was growing in a born again and i do not approve of any of these Ive been married 44 years and have never cheated or mistrusted my due to several i had to take four years off and now in trying to make a come the last thing i do at night and the very first thing i do in the morning is Pray for a new set of Barber a Barber who owns a shop told me if i can get the i can work for that Fine and but the tools i have now Are Ive used them for 12 years and have had them repaired until they Are past for including i can get everything i How about will you help me get started again dear some people say i Only help those who have been wronged through others say i Only help the elderly or single you say i Only help women and teenage since you Are none of and if i do help does that make you an exception to the Rule Heck because there Are no rules there Are Only worthy Indi such As potential wage earning a Cheque with which to Purchase the tools of your Trade is on the Way dear Ross after 35 years of the bulk of the arguments Between me and my Hus band have been Over my husband puts every cent in the Bank and leaves it there unless he wants he never car Ries Cash because he might spend our furniture is secondhand All of it Given to us by someone All of my clothes have come from secondhand in not even allowed to do the grocery i have to fight for every dime i do get from he has All the Bank credit stocks and Bonds in his i will see this Money Only after he i would appreciate it if you could Send me so i could set up a savings account and establish credit in my own dear if you think your husband is tight with a youll be surprised to learn in even i could never give you just so you could have a Little spending what i will give you is some sound advice get a Par time Job and you wont have to sob if you want Money to Burn you can earn you May write to Percy Ross Winnipeg free Box include a Telephone num Ber if you All letters sent to Ross Are Only a few Are answered in this Al though others May be acknowledged creators Syndicate More to Wink than meets Eye Nixon blink rate increased when asked Tough questions have you Ever wondered if the Boss was to you when you asked for an increase in salary or whether the person across the table was bored with your conversation and did the Politi Cian skirt around the truth when asked an important the next time youre in just watch How they that what we should have done during the watergate theres More to a Wink and a blink than meets the John Stern is chairman of the psychology department at Washington University in Hes recognized As the Pioneer and expert on and unlike a Wink that May convey some secret a blink takes us into the deep recesses of the it May indicate decision storing of information or shifting visual Atten blink rate Stern we dont blink at we blink at times that Are psychologically you have listened to a you understand now you take time out for a blinks Are punctuation their timing is tied to what is going on in your Stern developed an interest in blinking during the watergate Stern president Nixon blink rate increased Mark edly when asked a question he was not prepared to his speech was Well controlled and he did not Manifest any other symptoms of but you could see it in his most politicians have Learned to disguise feelings except in ways they cannot the next time you watch the evening take a look at the announcers Stern says Tele vision Anchorman and anchorwoman have been trained to inhibit blinks because there distracting to is the Boss listening intently to your pleas for a raise theres a Good Chance he is if Hes not but hell begin to blink Nixon hide anxiety which was revealed in the doctor game Gilford Jones More often when Hes deciding How to answer and if his decision is watch How the blinks become More in Sterns Louis subjects Are asked to make Deci Sions about sound tones that differ in he if some one blinks while listening to a he or she is More Likely to give a wrong As his concentration shuts he James Miller at Edwards air Force base in California says Sterns research on blinking has been used with Success at the air Force school of aerospace medi Miller says dont like to be attached to electrodes to Monitor he avoids this by shining undetectable infrared lights in the eyes and studies the amount of Light reflect during a lid less Light is in one pilots were awakened in the Middle of the forced to stay then Fly a hour simulation flight 12 hours researchers found a High correlation Between blink Mea sures and error in flight perform tests also show that pilots blink less frequently than their but when they reverse roles and Copilot face the visually demand ing the Converse City traffic blinking while driving varies according to the Stern says that in City Drivers blink less frequently and the eyelid closure is of Shorter but in country theres greater Freedom to and while wait ing for a traffic Light to it seems we All inhibit our in we prevent blinking when we Are acquiring important and blink when for when we routinely Check our Speed on the we blink As our eyes turn to the we blink again As we Register the but if a police car is behind we do not blink when checking the Speed researchers Are now studying the blink like the tells More about alertness than the blink initial studies show that As pilots and car Drivers become More the blink becomes less the views expressed Are How of the a practising physic while Giffor Jones Wel comes suggestions for future col he cannot treat specific problems by readers should 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